4 Tips on How To Gain Confidence

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” — Maxwell Maltz

 Nobody is born with limitless self-confidence. If someone seems to have incredible self-confidence, it’s because he or she has worked on building it for years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can deflate it.

 In This post I will share with you 4 tips on how I went from someone who sit in the back of the classroom quietly to speak on stage in front couple thousand people. From someone who got sick thinking about doing video to now making video daily and help others to gain confidence in video making.

Let’s get to those 4 tips

1. Write down 3 things that you accomplish everyday

“You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” — Louise L. Hay

 Have a journal right next to your bed, and every night before you go to sleep write down at least 3 things you accomplish that day. It could be as little as, I took a walk today; I make my bed to I finished that writing that blog. The purpose of this exercise is to remind you not to beat yourself up for not finishing that one thing on you to do list. We tend to be our toughest credit, so by doing this exercise you will learn to appreciate yourself and know your worth. Go to sleep with a positive mind.

2. Do one thing that scares you every day.

“If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.” — T. Harv Eker

 The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. By doing something that scares you every day and gaining confidence from every experience, you will see your self-confidence soar. So get out of your comfort zone and face your fears!

3. Help someone else

“Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours.” — L. Brown

Helping someone else often enables us to forget about ourselves and to feel grateful for what we have. It also feels good when you are able to make a difference for someone else.

 Instead of focusing on your own weaknesses, volunteer to mentor, assist or teach another, and you’ll see your self-confidence grow automatically in the process.

4. Create personal boundaries

 “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”– Harvey Fierstein

 Learn to say no. Teach others to respect your personal boundaries. If necessary, take classes on how to be more assertive and learn to ask for what you want. The more control and say that you have over your own life, the greater will be your self-confidence.